The Talk
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Can you really break a penis?
What do Sloane from Grey’s Anatomy, Schmidt from the New Girl and Johnny Knoxville from real life all have in common? Their broken penises, of course. The spectre of this grim-sounding injury...
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6 of Australia’s favourite fetishes
We’re a kinky bunch down under, as it turns out. Extrapolating data from Google trends, a 2021 study outed each country’s most-searched-for kinks, and without sounding like a clickbait article,...
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Maintaining emotional and sexual intimacy in a long-distance relationship
There are three words that, when spoken together, send an immediate shiver up many spines. Long. Distance. Relationship. If a friend mentions that they’re going to try things long distance,...
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You might be wrong about herpes
You’ve probably heard about herpes before from sex-ed classes, tasteless jokes on TV, or your annual check-up – but do you really understand what it’s like to live with this...
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Applying Kama Sutra in the 21st century
You don’t have to try out every one of its acrobatic sex positions to explore the Kama Sutra. If you’ve read our previous article, Kama Sutra: A Guide To The...
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Kama Sutra: a guide to the art of pleasure
The Kama Sutra has captivated the erotic imagination of the west for centuries, but illustrations of spectacular sexual gymnastics are just a fraction of what this ancient Sanskrit text has...
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Coitus interruptus: let’s talk about the pull-out method
From the earliest records of human civilization, people have sought ways to control their fertility. It is believed that even our ancestors, in their resourcefulness, recognized the connection between sexual...
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Debunking the ‘Winning Sperm’
Ah, the thrilling race of conception! That exhilarating competition between male gametes. At the shot of the starting pistol, hundreds of millions of sperm spring from the starting block, jostling...
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Is period syncing real?
The concept of period syncing is kind of like magic, or manifesting, or fairies, or the way characters in the Twilight series imprint on each other. It sounds cool, it...
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Pillow Talk with Tamara Natt
Welcome to Pillow Talk, a series of chats with some of our favourite creatives, activists, artists and designers. Queer poet, essayist and playwright, Tamara Natt (she/they) has accomplished so much...
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The 411 On Phone Sex
Phone sex is for everyone; for long distance lovers fanning the flame from hemispheres away to those who have already showered and slipped into their pyjamas and CBF moving for sex. ...
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My IUD Journey: Four Things I Wish I Knew about IUDs
An IUD, or intrauterine device is primarily a small contraception device that is prescribed by a doctor and inserted (sometimes painfully) into your uterus, staying there for roughly 5 years. IUDs slowly...
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Myths and realities of kink
BDSM is an acronym that stands for bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism, and is an umbrella term that encompasses different communities and sexual behaviours.
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Let’s talk about PCOS
It’s the most common hormonal disorder, affecting 1 in 10 women. You might well have it yourself - you certainly know someone who does. So why aren’t we talking about it...
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The 3 types of erections
The dictionary definition of ‘erection’ isn’t likely to surprise you. Generally it’s something like, “an enlarged and rigid state of the penis, typically in sexual excitement”. No crazy curveballs there. But what...
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Six tips to join the mile high club
There are countless reasons why so many of us are tantalised by the elusive "Mile High Club". You may wish to indulge in a lifelong aviation fantasy, perhaps you long for...
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How do you incorporate pleasure into your life?
This month at LBDO, we’ve been discussing the various definitions and historical conceptions of pleasure. Our findings? Pleasure comes down to subjective experience; each of us incorporate pleasure into our...
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Why is pleasure still so taboo?
Despite the progress we’ve made towards sex and gender equality, there is a lingering taboo attached to sexual pleasure. Many people avoid openly expressing and pursuing their sexual desires, for...
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How do we define pleasure?
Although ‘pleasure’ is a word commonly thrown around in the 21st Century lexicon, its actual meaning can be illusive. We know that it refers to some feeling of deep satisfaction...
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Five common sex dreams explained
Waking up from a sex dream can be weird. Sometimes they’re super blissful and erotic, sometimes they’re unhinged nightmares. Most dreams are deeply personalised and unique (has anyone else had...
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The science behind pleasure: what happens in our brain?
Most of us understand that something is going on in our bodies and brains when we feel good. It could be a post-workout rush, laughing with friends or having sex;...
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A five step guide to getting off with your shower head
Nothing beats a hot shower with good water pressure - some say it’s better than sex. But what about both at the same time? If you’re curious about getting off...
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Staying connected during a fight
In the midst of an argument with someone you love, it can be near impossible to look on the bright side. But often, there is a bright side. Or at...
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Erotic fiction by an AI bot
Artificial intelligence, or AI, is changing and shaping the future of just about every industry. Terrifying, yes. But horny?… maybe. We gave an AI writing system the prompt, “write a...
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10 Days of Blissmas
This year we’ve put together a ten-day holiday guide dedicated to expanding your pleasure, enhancing your sexuality, and improving your self-confidence. Masturbation on each of these days is, of course,...
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Desire discrepancies: The four questions to ask your partner
It is not just common for partners to differ in levels of desire, but actually something most people will experience eventually in their relationships. This leaves the question, how can you healthily...
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Five things to remember when you don’t feel like having sex
So you don’t feel like having sex. Guess what - that’s fine. Not feeling like having sex - for any amount of time and any (or no) reason is not...
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Five green flags to look for in a partner
Dating discourse in the last few years has produced a long list of identifiable character traits and personal habits we know to avoid at all costs. But what are the...
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Speaking your partner’s love language
Gary Chapman’s bestselling book ‘The Five Love Languages’ (1982) outlines his theory that each person has a primary language through which they communicate and feel love. These five love languages are still...
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Ten everyday aphrodisiacs
We’re all familiar with the quintessential aphrodisiacs; oysters, champagne, and strawberries – but what everyday foods, if any, stimulate our sexual vitality? Here’s a list of ten edible aphrodisiacs that you might...
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LBDO’s guide to postpartum sex
Pregnancy and childbirth are different for everyone. After welcoming your newborn, sex may well be the last thing on your mind. Or you might be keen to resume your regular sex...
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The different types of attachment styles
Picture yourself at your most vulnerable state - as an infant. Whilst you probably don’t remember it, you were starting to form an attachment to your primary caregivers. Whether you...
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'Good Luck to You, Leo Grande' Director Sophie Hyde on pleasure, shame and the path to liberation
"Pleasure is the point...it is freedom." These are the wise words of pleasure activist Adrienne Marie Brown. And the opposite of freedom is control. When we think about the ways...
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Aftercare and how to do it
After sex, do you ever feel vulnerable, emotional, unfulfilled or far away from your partner, even though they’re lying right next to you? Let’s talk about aftercare. Aftercare is a term...
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Pillow Talk with Kayla Moon
Welcome to Pillow Talk, a series of chats with some of our favourite creatives, activists, artists and designers. For our fourth instalment, we had the pleasure of sitting down with...
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Five long-distance date ideas
Long-distance relationships are more common now than ever. In fact, migration statistics show that Australians are bringing more than 50,000 foreign partners to the country every year. But how do you keep close...