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The colour psychology of attraction

The colour psychology of attraction

One often overlooked facet of intimacy and attraction may be its deep connection with colour. The association between colour and human attraction has garnered significant attention, even being backed by a number of psychological studies

While we’re not making out with paint swatches from the hardware store, the colours you choose to wear and surround yourself with can and do communicate volumes to the subconscious minds of those around you - believe it or not. 

Let's delve into some key colours on the spectrum and the messages they convey. 


Red 

Among all hues, red speaks the loudest. It's no coincidence that the red traffic light commands attention. Linked with romance, passion, and confidence (think Rihanna at the Super Bowl), red also exudes a strong sense of power. 

There is discussion among experts as to why this is the case – perhaps a product of evolution or social conditioning, but the colour red acts as a potent aphrodisiac, stimulating the nervous system, igniting energy, and accelerating heart rates. We encourage you to use this information wisely. 

Yellow 

Often perceived as cheerful or innocent, yellow possesses a playful complexity that can uplift those around it. Psychologically, wearing yellow attracts attention in any setting – people are actually more likely to engage with you if you are wearing it. The happy hue also fosters spontaneity and optimism, pretty ideal qualities for successful social interactions or interview settings. 

Blue 

Is it really the warmest colour? Though blue may seem at odds with the fiery passion of red, its serene calm brings its own brand of allure. Mentally, blue is naturally associated with trust, dependability, and honesty. Lovers of blue are said to often exude a cool-headed, sensitive demeanour while maintaining relaxation - and in some cases, control. 

Black and White 

Sometimes there’s harmony in duality. While black conveys seriousness and dominance with a hint of intrigue, white classically symbolises purity and safety. Combining black and white often represents a balance of opposites within oneself, showcasing versatility and complexity. Take it as a rejection of conformity – leaning into the dark while embracing the light. 

Understanding the nuances of basic colour psychology can be a powerful tool in social, professional and romantic contexts, but it’s no match for embracing your authentic self. While using colour based on meaning can be advantageous, true attraction will always stem from a genuine expression of self before any shade on the wheel.

1 Sloane P. (1991). Primary Sources, Selected Writings on Color from Aristotle to Albers. New York, NY: Design Press.
2 Gage J. (1993). Color and Culture: Practice and Meaning from Antiquity to Abstraction. Berkeley, CA: University of California Press. 
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